Rainbow Baby

I am not a child psychiatrist.  I am only a mother.  I am writing this because I don't want to go through the same road that some mothers go through.  Those with troubled teenagers, with spoilt kids, or problematic kids who can't blend well with the world. At my work place, I am seeing this happening more and more with younger people who feel entitled, who only cares for themselves and not others and lack manners.  And I attribute all these to their upbringing. I have a theory and I think it all started because we want the best for our kids and in that process we indulged them too much.  Say kids always have the last say.  They dislike this, we don't give.  They like that, we give them endless. We give them organic food as a means to start a healthy lifestyle but that makes them weaker as well as they can't take non-organic food.  And the immunity to fight. That doesn't mean we have to give ice cream, candy, fried food, fast food all the time....

Baby has been going for swimming class since she was 8 months old.  She enjoyed it very much at first but then now towards the end of the second term, she is suddenly afraid of water and refused to do all that she was doing earlier.  Although she didn't cry but she just grabbed to my swimsuit and refused to do anything.  The swimming lessons are in a specialised heated pool with controlled chlorine usage and salted water.  Something like that.  The lessons are designed for babies, infant, toddler.  Either the mom or the dad has to be in the pool with the child. Baby was progressing well and even kicking her legs happily at the beginning of Term 2.  Then I missed 1 lesson and the next 2 lessons she refused to do anything.   The instructor said it's because I missed a lesson and that Baby is at the time when she knows what she likes and dislikes. But I find her behaviour is also attributed to 1 child in the class.  He is about 2 years o...

So, it all started with this compulsory conference thingy that all the employees have to attend, full-day on a Saturday.  So, no choice, I have to tell my baby's swimming instructor that she can't make it for her Saturday swimming class because of this conference.  Her swimming class is such that either parent have to accompany her in the pool and I have been the one with her since her first lesson.  So, don't think anyone else knows how to hold her and so on.  And her dad works on weekends, so that's totally out. The swimming instructor was nice enough to tell me to come the next day, Sunday as replacement.  It's considered as an advance class, so I don't really miss any lesson or being absent for any.  I was glad.  Unfortunately, after the swimming class, there was a whole string of activities for me and us.  I took her for a drive coz I needed to collect this coconut oil infused with curry leaves and fenugreek that I bought from one of the...

I used to envy others for their life.  I always compared myself with the others, on how they are doing so much better than me while I am still stuck in a rut.  So much so that my good friend told me to pull myself together and that some people are good at showing what's good but not what's bad about them that I don't know about those bad things.  Which is true, but I am so used, probably conditioned by my upbringing that I compared excessively.  When in school and college, I compared my results with my peers.  When at work, I compared my position, my financials, my relationship status, my everything with my peers. ~ How come they can buy a big car while I can't when we used to study together and start work together? ~ How come I don't have a boyfriend when it's so easy for others to find one? (back when I was single) ~ How come I can't have a baby when so many undeserving people are popping babies every minute? (when I was TTC-ing) ~ How come ...

Baby hit 1 year old on 28 Jan 2017.   That marks 1 year of breastfeeding and the irony of it,  having a milk blister on that day too.   Ouch! Baby has started to suckle for fun and thus not getting the milk out on purpose and causing the milk blister.   She likes to suckle to sleep.  And now likes to climb over me or her dad while still in dreamland. This 1 year,  I didn't exclusively breastfed or pumped.  I had to mixed with formula occasionally until about 6 months.   I still remember when she turned 6 months and the supply was low, as in only left with 2 bottles in the fridge,  we started her with solid immediately and was able to save the bottles for the next day. I was a low supply mom.   Never leaked.   Never had more than 3 bottles in the fridge in 1 day of pumping.   Never had mastitis.  Bought the milk storage bags but never got to use them as I don't have enough to ...

So after checking out several options,  we finally decided on Jungle Gym at Atria Shopping Gallery.   Reasons were simple.   Firstly,  it is the nearest to our home.  Secondly,  it is reasonable if compared to the others.   Thirdly,  we really like the party area. What I really enjoyed was that both the kids and adults had so much of fun and food and I am so pleased with the service offered by the Jungle Gym team. Security I like how secure the place is.   If I want to compare to other kids play land, I feel Jungle Gym is very careful and organised with the security.   All who entered are given a wrist tag with QR code.   If we have entered and exited,  then need to go to the counter to get the code reconfigured.   Otherwise,  no entry allowed.  Every entry and exit must be scanned and checked.  Of course,  you still won't leave your kids alone but I can sa...

Few days ago, I was having runny nose.  Naturally, I took tissue to blow my nose.  As always, since my girl has been playing on her own most of the time, I didn't noticed that she was paying attention. You see, after coming back from work, I am very exhausted and tired.  Lately, work has been so busy that I can't even have some time to do my own things on the internet.  So, when I am back, I like to immersed myself with my k-dramas.  I was doing this as I breastfed her, pumped milk and sometimes after breastfeeding, I just continue watching while I let her be on her own and do her own things. Then it dawned upon me that I am neglecting her.  Because I see her coming to me for attention, climbing all over me, kissing me (or rather biting me), and likes to come and touch my iPad.  I just put her away as I continued with my k-drama.  And she kept coming back. When younger, she probably doesn't do much of this attention-seeking actions. ...