Check this story out on Daily Mail

Not sure if you have seen this, but here it is.  Emily Bingham, a writer from the US wrote the following post on Facebook:

"Hey everyone!!! Now that I got your attention with this RANDOM ULTRASOUND PHOTO I grabbed from a Google image search, this is just a friendly P.S.A. that people’s reproductive and procreative plans and decisions are none of your business. NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS. 
Before you ask the young married couple that has been together for seemingly forever when they are finally gonna start a family … before you ask the parents of an only-child toddler when a Little Brother or Little Sister will be in the works … before you ask a single 30-something if/when s/he plans on having children because, you know, clock’s ticking … just stop. Please stop. 
You don’t know who is struggling with infertility or grieving a miscarriage or dealing with health issues. You don’t know who is having relationship problems or is under a lot of stress or the timing just isn’t right. You don’t know who is on the fence about having kids or having more kids. 
You don’t know who has decided it’s not for them right now, or not for them ever. You don’t know how your seemingly innocent question might cause someone grief, pain, stress or frustration. 
Sure, for some people those questions may not cause any fraught feelings — but I can tell you, from my own experiences and hearing about many friends’ experiences — it more than likely does.
Bottom line: Whether you are a wanna-be grandparent or a well-intentioned friend or family member or a nosy neighbor, it’s absolutely none of your business. Ask someone what they’re excited about right now. Ask them what the best part of their day was. 
If a person wants to let you in on something as personal as their plans to have or not have children, they will tell you. If you’re curious, just sit back and wait and let them do so by their own choosing, if and when they are ready."

 What a nicely written post.  Here's the article on DailyMail UK.

Every Chinese New Year, I always have this feeling that if you meet a relative whom you are not close with and you don't know how to open the conversation, they will look at your current situation and then start asking what you are lacking.  

Eg.  "When are you getting married?" - to someone who may or may not have a boyfriend/girlfriend and the relative haven't seen him/her yet.
"When are you going to have a baby?" - I got asked this so many times after marriage.  It got to the point of really, "IT'S NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!"
"When are you going to have a second one?"  - This is after the first child is all grown up.

I have to admit that before all this fertility and TTC period, I also asked the same question to some of the cousins and relatives.  I guess it's the culture.  But now I know better.

IT'S REALLY NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS!!!

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